Kindness

Kindness,

ˈkʌɪn(d)nəs/

noun: kindness

1. the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate.

I consider myself a kind person.

This in no way means that I like everyone, to be really honest loads of people annoy me, and I believe that most people don't like every aspect of a person who they love.

When I say that I am a kind person, I mean that I would never go out of my way to hurt someone by saying something mean/hurtful to them, I also try to avoid gossiping as much as possible, everyone likes to gossip now and then, but talking to others about people behind their back constantly is something I absolutely hate, even if the people being talked about it aren't really aware of it.

Recently all these thoughts have been running through my mind an awful lot. Being in a fandom can be an amazing thing and I will never deny this. However, it can also bring lots of stuff that isn't fun at all. I've been in a fairly small fandom for quite a while now. Some nights I scroll through twitter and all I can see is people 'indirecting' each other once again. People bringing others down for doing something they enjoy. People mocking other people tweets, and talking about others behind their back. The saddest part is that often enough all this isn't about the fandom itself, not about the characters, the show or the band but about the fans personally.

It is so sad and completely ridiculous. You are all here because you enjoy the same thing.

I feel like being mean and bullying others without them actually knowing is the only pasttime of some groups of people. It gets me so angry, do you all have nothing else to do? Leave other people alone, are you really this sad that all you can do is talk about other people and bring them down constantly for doing something they enjoy.

It also always nice to see people posting on social media about being nice to others and that people deserve happiness and that you should never be the reason of someone's sadness when that's exactly what some of these hypocrites are doing!

I honestly love the idea of when you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything. Even when people aren't aware that others are talking about them, it still makes you such a nasty, pathetic and negative person.

I do have to point out that this is purely about people being pure nasty for no reason. If people have a (problematic) opinion that you don't agree with, don't hestitate to talk to them about it, but you can also do this in a fairly civil way.

This was very much about bullying and being horrible on social media, but of course this is also the case for real life, unfortunately there are people out there that get their little kicks from being nasty to others. It's something that I will never understand. Being nasty isn't 'cool or funny' in the slightest. Let other people be.

 

I am definitely not saying that I have never been unnecessarily mean to someone, especially when I was a lot younger I didn't always say kind things. But it is now something that I will avoid as much as possible and something that I am always aware of.

Have I really just written a whole rant about fandom life? I think I have

I was planning on writing a different post but then all of a sudden I felt angry again and thought now is the time to write this post. If you couldn't tell that I am bitter about loads of stuff I don't know what will! :')

If you got to the end of this post,,, thank you very much for reading, I hope it made you think! When I started this post I honestly had no clue where I wanted it to go, I just had to get some of my thoughts on paper!

I will just leave you with some nice quotes!

                                                       Lots of love x

( most of the quotes are from pinterest! )